Dating Single Moms?

[///NEM3SES]

Sup guys, figured I'd ask the M chronies for some advice and maybe you guys can offer your wisdom. (Please no smart remarks)

What is your opinion when dating a single mom? What's the hardest thing to deal with? etc...
Anyone with experience, your advice is greatly appreciated :rolleyes:

[nismo skyline]

avoid that like the plague.
you dont listen to Tom Lykis?

[98M3Sedan]

Don't let them take advantage and turn you into a babysitter... other than that honestly its fine.

[Bimmerlifestyle]

Don't let them take advantage and turn you into a babysitter... other than that honestly its fine.

+1 ;)

[Orange fever]

Sup guys, figured I'd ask the M chronies for some advice and maybe you guys can offer your wisdom. (Please no smart remarks)

What is your opinion when dating a single mom? What's the hardest thing to deal with? etc...
Anyone with experience, your advice is greatly appreciated :rolleyes:

Thats a NO NO this is for you :
http://www.mfestforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=414

[///NEM3SES]

didn't realize we had an "off topic" thread, can a mod move this thread for me please, gracias!

[HARLEY]

if you have any questions let me know bro, i just got out of a relationship with a single mom, i was with her for 3 years, from the good to the bad, its usually really really, hmmm how should i say it, "different" for a single guy to be with a single mom, some girls dont want for you to play dad (at first), and others are looking for just that. its more like you having to work around her schedule rather than her working around yours. and here's the thing, things get serious really quick, just consider your options bro...

[Bimmerlifestyle]

if you have any questions let me know bro, i just got out of a relationship with a single mom, i was with her for 3 years, from the good to the bad, its usually really really, hmmm how should i say it, "different" for a single guy to be with a single mom, some girls dont want for you to play dad (at first), and others are looking for just that. its more like you having to work around her schedule rather than her working around yours. and here's the thing, things get serious really quick, just consider your options bro...

damn you put that down really well

[gbogh3]

its more like you having to work around her schedule rather than her working around yours. and here's the thing, things get serious really quick, just consider your options bro...
True True:

Additions:
1) You will never be #1, and you don't want to be, her kids should come first
2) Dad, unlessed deceased, will or hopefully be in the picture for the kids. he may not be. And since he may also be in the picture, you may have that 'drama' to deal with.

If i were going to date a single mom, I would want know the history of her relationship with Dad, married or not? How old she is, and how old am I? I believe the older she is, and you are, the more sense it might make, PROVIDING you are looking to settle down.

AND I totally agree with an earlier statement, DO NOT become a kid sitter, driver! Trust me, this will happen in the future if it all works out.

Good luck,
g

[Laidback]

Baby and Daddy drama is just the start and Mom's drama is another:(...+1 on Gbogh3:D

[batman]

+1 with what HARLEY and gbogh3 said. Things get serious faster than you would think. It's not bad tho if thats what you are looking for. She may just want an adult to hang out with since shes around her kid all the time. If you like your single life however, than this is definitely not for you! On the other hand, a single mom is not a handicap or anything, it's just as interesting if not more than anyone else. Go with your gut on this one, just don't get too serious too fast.

BTW I married the single mom I dated, and fell in love with her, and wouldn't trade it for anything. =)

[cosmos]

And remember, above all.....Don't shoplift the Pooty!

[415Banker]

Before I was married, I've dated two single moms and had two different situations...

First single mom: I was under the impression that I could be a daddy figure. She thought the same way too...It worked out pretty well. I didn't mind picking up her daughter at school. I didn't mind going to county fairs with the two. I also didn't mind doing the daily grind whatsoever. Unfortunately, I had to cut out since school was in the way and had to focus on ME graduating and that meant me going to the UK.

Second single mom: Have already graduated, starting my own business, and with prior knowledge from the previous single mom relationship, I knew I couldn't get attached to the son. We were both not monogamous and wanted an open relationship. She was more independent than the previous and was quite a successful nurse.

Now that I'm a single dad, I look back. Single moms or just plain single women are similar. They both have similar needs, wants, and priorities. It's YOU that makes the difference. What are your priorities now? Do you see yourself just having fun with this lovely lady? Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her?

So to say that dating a single mom is a total NO NO is BS.

EDIT: Also take note how long has it been since the dad and the mom been separated...Time heals all wounds.

[MarqE46]

I have and am dating a single mom from time to time.. I just try not to bring up her kids in conversations as much as possible. Other than that it's like dating anyone else.

[///NEM3SES]

lol, thanks for everyone's input, didn't know there would be this many responces....I guess my assumptions are correct, the older you get the more likely you are to date mothers haha...

Little more info on her:
-Known each other for 6 years, kinda were attracted to each other in college but she was dating her baby's daddy at the time...
- She got pregnant dropped out of UCSB, moved in with him
- After **** hits the fan a few years later she moves back home up north
- After college I moved back to Bakersfield, and we kinda kept in touch through email etc.
- recently we've talked more, she and her ex have worked out some kinda of custody arrangement where he gets the baby for 1 wk out of the month. Well this past weekend she was picking up her son at the halfway point (really close to me) and stopped by to visit me...
- Things went well, we had some food, drinks, met my family, I met her son for the first time... very adorable little boy...
- We didn't have any alone time so we didn't really do much, but we did kiss before she left...

So I dont know... I guess I'm really diggin her, and I feel like if she made the wrong choice with her baby daddy, she's prone to choosing the wrong kind of men, and might even through me in with them...I'm not worried about leaving the single life, Im quite frankly over it actually, but I don't know how to be a dad either lol...or if that's what she even wants ...

All my life I've heard woman rant about what they want in a guy, and how guys r jerks because of this and this...but its been my experience that as much as they rant about what they want...in the end it doesn't seem like they even know......

anyways...yea thas my situation...

[Bimmerlifestyle]

Time heals all wounds.

+1



Im learning a lot from you guys

Thank you

[batman]

So I dont know... I guess I'm really diggin her, and I feel like if she made the wrong choice with her baby daddy, she's prone to choosing the wrong kind of men, and might even through me in with them...I'm not worried about leaving the single life, Im quite frankly over it actually, but I don't know how to be a dad either lol...or if that's what she even wants ...

It sounds like you are definitely mature enough, and if you dig her that much then you should go for it. BTW no one is ever ready to be a father. You just learn to care for someone more than yourself. Good luck buddy! :cool:

[batwife]

So I dont know... I guess I'm really diggin her, and I feel like if she made the wrong choice with her baby daddy, she's prone to choosing the wrong kind of men, and might even through me in with them...I'm not worried about leaving the single life, Im quite frankly over it actually, but I don't know how to be a dad either lol...or if that's what she even wants ...

All my life I've heard woman rant about what they want in a guy, and how guys r jerks because of this and this...but its been my experience that as much as they rant about what they want...in the end it doesn't seem like they even know......

Go with your gut feeling. If you, and her, really want to make it work then you'll make it your best to work it out. Whether that means making it work first without the child present (which most likely means spending less time with her) or making it work with both her and her boy.

Remember, if you weren't worth it she probablly wouldn't even had introduced you to her son. I know in my case with Batman (and I'm sure I can speak for most single moms) we would rather be selective with the men we introduce to our kid. I mean, why would I want my son growing up meeting men who won't be around for long and/or many different men - that kid will end up being one confused little boy! Also, maybe she's not looking for you to be her son's father figure. Even though her son is #1 she might just be looking to fill her heart in a different way.

That's just my opinion, whether or not it made any sense.

PS. Women are women. We think we know what we want though most of the time we really don't THEN we want you to figure out what we want! (Yes, we're confusing!)



BTW I married the single mom I dated, and fell in love with her, and wouldn't trade it for anything. =)

:wub: Brownie points.

[Laidback]

I'd say if you like her date first and get to know each other, but don't let her leave her tooth brush at your place, the next thing you know your living together:laughhard:....your young bro enjoy life, there's a BIG world out there, just waiting for you...

but know this "No matter what advise people gives you it will still be your choice that counts"

[Laidback]

It's the other way around...:Dlol, thanks for everyone's input, didn't know there would be this many responces....I guess my assumptions are correct, the older you get the more likely you are to date mothers haha...

[///NEM3SES]

thanks for all the feedback guys, your input really helps...I hope it all works out with her....
I know I'm young and I have my whole life ahead of me (thanks for the kind words Laidback), but growing up with my family, you grow up quick... and I must confess I feel alot older than I really am...perhaps its my setting

My problem is that as I get older, relationships, while I feel should be more serious, more profound so to speak, have been the opposite for me.... you ladies criticise us guys that are "only after one thing" but I've met plenty of ladies with this mindset as well...
Nowadays it saddens me that woman act like they don't need men for anything... lol **** not even for pro-creation!!!

To me thats like a stab in the heart,taking one of my meanings of life out of a man lol...
anyways... I've met enough promiscuous girls...no doubt I haven't met the last.. but as I said... I long for a sincere person in my life...

[the.marks]

thanks for all the feedback guys, your input really helps...I hope it all works out with her....
I know I'm young and I have my whole life ahead of me (thanks for the kind words Laidback), but growing up with my family, you grow up quick... and I must confess I feel alot older than I really am...perhaps its my setting

My problem is that as I get older, relationships, while I feel should be more serious, more profound so to speak, have been the opposite for me.... you ladies criticise us guys that are "only after one thing" but I've met plenty of ladies with this mindset as well...
Nowadays it saddens me that woman act like they don't need men for anything... lol **** not even for pro-creation!!!

To me thats like a stab in the heart,taking one of my meanings of life out of a man lol...
anyways... I've met enough promiscuous girls...no doubt I haven't met the last.. but as I said... I long for a sincere person in my life...


Deep...

It's seems like you already have your mind set already (or heart-set). It also seems that you've "played" the field in the past; you know what you want and you're in the state (now) of realizing that you're not getting any younger...

I can't say that I've been with a single mom or anything but coming from a guy that's been in a relationship for five years :wub: , if you get excited when you spend time with her, you can't find anything wrong with her that you don't like, her imperfections are still perfection to you, she calls you out on your **** (is brutally honest with you all the time), she knows what you're saying when you say, "it's that thing with that thing happened when we went to that thing..." and makes total sense to her, etc... (the list can go on) then her being a mom shouldn't matter. The kid shouldn't matter either. She had a kid with someone else, end of story. If she wants a "replacement dad" and you're up for the challenge, it shouldn't matter. I think of it as if she's happy, she'll bring you happiness if you know what I mean. :p

Okay, it's too serious... so I'm just gonna say something "immature":

She's a mom, at least you know she puts out... DAAAAYYUUMMM...! :raspberry:

[///NEM3SES]

haha, thanks the.marks

[the.marks]

^^^ You are sooo welcome.

I'm like the perverted uncle in the family that straight up asks on if your GF is hot or not and usually not afraid of letting you know my opinion.

So, now show us a picture of the fine lady...





Don't make me do it... :p

:threadworthlesswith

[///NEM3SES]

Her name is Alicia, her sons name is Xan :)

[the.marks]

That kid is CUTE...!!! (no fag...)

Gotta do a better picture than that (the brightly lit one)...

[mfestprince]

GOOD LUCK ON THE MOM DRAMA!
1. babysitting the kids
2. you'll be part of the kids life
3. kids could hate you and start another problem
4. Sex wont be too good (loose)
5. you'llbe wastin $$$ on mom and the kids
6.you might get locked down and never attend m-fest
7. everything could be the other way around
8. GOOD LUCK
9. Dont bring stress to yourself
10. Find a Hot single women with no Kids,so you can Make it happen!

[415Banker]

GOOD LUCK ON THE MOM DRAMA!
1. babysitting the kids
2. you'll be part of the kids life
3. kids could hate you and start another problem
4. Sex wont be too good (loose)
5. you'llbe wastin $$$ on mom and the kids
6.you might get locked down and never attend m-fest
7. everything could be the other way around
8. GOOD LUCK
9. Dont bring stress to yourself
10. Find a Hot single women with no Kids,so you can Make it happen!

don't listen to mr chu here =P...as u can see from his SN alone, he's a playa :D

[MC28REPSOL]

well this comes from years of experience and you can take it how you will just remember that for the most part it true. (did i mention i in the process of writing a book about relationships?)

ok, here we go .... looks like it's going to be a LONG POST!

the #1 thing you have to ask yourself when "Dating" a single parent is: (and you must be honest with yourself be surprised how many "Lie" to themselves) "What are your intentions with that relationship? are you looking for a serious relationship or just want to have some fun? and if your looking to get serious, then comes question #2 are you willing to "Share" your time with her? and do you understand that most of the time you now spend together will be family time (you, her and kids)? and alone time must be set up and planed ... ie, date nights. no more spontaneous ventures to Vegas @ 2am.

now, if after reading the above and you still want to proceed then read on.

in today's society with teen pregnancy going out of control you'll find more and more younger women with children. now when dealing with single mothers something most people never ask themselves is what roles would they most likely play in "That" relationship? yes, they are many different roles depending on their situation.

the young girl, teens to early twenties: this is the party girl and in most cases they live with their parents and their life style rarely changes. meaning that her parents deal with the brunt of child rearing and feel that their daughter is still too immature to raise a child with little or no help.

your role: not to much unless you want it to be.

older women, late twenties or older: more mature and in most cases are totally responsible for the well being of this child. at this point you now have Family Time and the term "Date Night" will start to come up as she will have to make arrangements for child care, while your out on your date. women in this category are now looking for a "Mate and/or Father Figure" so please proceed with caution.

your role: the new dad.

the Divorced Woman or one with an Active Father: this is where there is a Father Figure already in place. Yay! less work for you. dates will now be easier since most likely there will be some sort of custody agreement and the Dad usually gets screwed (sorry, women that is how i look at it) they get the kids on the weekends. what does this mean? you guessed it ... the woman gets to party on the weekend while the dad stays with the kids. but good news for you as your girl is now free on those weekends ... YAY!

your role: just like as with the younger women ... your role is more defined by how much or how little you want to be involved in rearing this child or children. but remember that you have a lot less say in how that child is raised since there is an Active Father in the picture. oh, one more important thing. NEVER get involved with Father & Mother fights or take sides unless it turns physical ... and then your ONLY Involvement should be to CALL the POLICE. trust me on this ... NEVER, EVER GET INVOLVOED with their spats, Stay Neutral!!!!

there's more but this should give you a basic idea of what's it like with single parents. hope this helps.

[roxxxstr]

Unless you're Dexter, it's not a good idea.

97.1 FM from 3pm - 8pm will help you out....

[///NEM3SES]

thanks Roxxstar, ill have to tune in....

[Orange fever]

ITs Flash Friday.....................Thats a NO NO this is for you :
http://www.mfestforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=414

well this comes from years of experience and you can take it how you will just remember that for the most part it true. (did i mention i in the process of writing a book about relationships?)

ok, here we go .... looks like it's going to be a LONG POST!

the #1 thing you have to ask yourself when "Dating" a single parent is: (and you must be honest with yourself be surprised how many "Lie" to themselves) "What are your intentions with that relationship? are you looking for a serious relationship or just want to have some fun? and if your looking to get serious, then comes question #2 are you willing to "Share" your time with her? and do you understand that most of the time you now spend together will be family time (you, her and kids)? and alone time must be set up and planed ... ie, date nights. no more spontaneous ventures to Vegas @ 2am.

now, if after reading the above and you still want to proceed then read on.

in today's society with teen pregnancy going out of control you'll find more and more younger women with children. now when dealing with single mothers something most people never ask themselves is what roles would they most likely play in "That" relationship? yes, they are many different roles depending on their situation.

the young girl, teens to early twenties: this is the party girl and in most cases they live with their parents and their life style rarely changes. meaning that her parents deal with the brunt of child rearing and feel that their daughter is still too immature to raise a child with little or no help.

your role: not to much unless you want it to be.

older women, late twenties or older: more mature and in most cases are totally responsible for the well being of this child. at this point you now have Family Time and the term "Date Night" will start to come up as she will have to make arrangements for child care, while your out on your date. women in this category are now looking for a "Mate and/or Father Figure" so please proceed with caution.

your role: the new dad.

the Divorced Woman or one with an Active Father: this is where there is a Father Figure already in place. Yay! less work for you. dates will now be easier since most likely there will be some sort of custody agreement and the Dad usually gets screwed (sorry, women that is how i look at it) they get the kids on the weekends. what does this mean? you guessed it ... the woman gets to party on the weekend while the dad stays with the kids. but good news for you as your girl is now free on those weekends ... YAY!

your role: just like as with the younger women ... your role is more defined by how much or how little you want to be involved in rearing this child or children. but remember that you have a lot less say in how that child is raised since there is an Active Father in the picture. oh, one more important thing. NEVER get involved with Father & Mother fights or take sides unless it turns physical ... and then your ONLY Involvement should be to CALL the POLICE. trust me on this ... NEVER, EVER GET INVOLVOED with their spats, Stay Neutral!!!!

there's more but this should give you a basic idea of what's it like with single parents. hope this helps.

Unless you're Dexter, it's not a good idea.

97.1 FM from 3pm - 8pm will help you out....

[E90///M3]

I've never dated a single mother but i was interested in one while i was younger. My family has always told me, "you don't want to be an instant father do you?" My friends used to discourage cause of the "babby daddy drama." When i was younger i followed what everyone said about dating a single mother...

As i got older, i thought... what's the big deal! if i like/love the girl, the kid gets along with me & the baby daddy isn't interested in getting back with her or killing me then I'M GOOD TO GO!

In the end, it's up to you... if you can provide for her & be able to live comfortably then I say, GO FOR IT!

good luck!

[MarqE46]

Ok guys I know it's not the same scenario but, what about dating a cute still finely crafted married girl/lady who happen to be separated with the husband??

[E90///M3]

Ok guys I know it's not the same scenario but, what about dating a cute still finely crafted married girl/lady who happen to be separated with the husband??

i hope you're not dating my best friends ex-wife in Vegas :lolhit:


i say if they are mutually seperated (the husband isn't stalking her or still in love) then i say it's all good. Especially if the papers in the process of being filed. My .02 cents :)

[Laidback]

With a kid? Ok guys I know it's not the same scenario but, what about dating a cute still finely crafted married girl/lady who happen to be separated with the husband??

:laughhard:
i hope you're not dating my best friends ex-wife in Vegas :lolhit:

[Laidback]

Can you take me out Paris Hilton, Kobe Bryant, Bong hit and thank you Jesus style:lolhit:ITs Flash Friday.....................

[MarqE46]

i hope you're not dating my best friends ex-wife in Vegas :lolhit:


i say if they are mutually seperated (the husband isn't stalking her or still in love) then i say it's all good. Especially if the papers in the process of being filed. My .02 cents :)

Now you make it sound like you want me to date your best friends ex-wife. More info please.. :laughhard:

..and yea I still need to find that out, the mutually separated part. doh!!

With a kid?

:laughhard:

:cough:eeyup(s):cough:

;)

[E90///M3]

Now you make it sound like you want me to date your best friends ex-wife. More info please.. :laughhard:


trust... you don't want to! lol

[MC28REPSOL]

i really think people have a misconception of the term ... "Dating"

for me Dating isn't just taking someone out ... as in "On a Date".

when a person says they are "Dating" this usually refers to a relationship, as in Boy Friend / Girl Friend.

now i hope all this talk about taking a single mother out ... is just that taking her out and in the end maybe getting something for your time and trouble. but NOT a relationship. if i ever break up with my current girl friend (who happens to have kids ... not mine) i will never ever "Date" another single parent. ... NEVER! life is too short and i make too much money (now ... hehe) to deal with that again. but on the flip side ... i never said i wouldn't take out some MILF for some friends with benefits action. :p

[Laidback]

The more money you make the more picky you'll be:Di really think people have a misconception of the term ... "Dating"

for me Dating isn't just taking someone out ... as in "On a Date".

when a person says they are "Dating" this usually refers to a relationship, as in Boy Friend / Girl Friend.

now i hope all this talk about taking a single mother out ... is just that taking her out and in the end maybe getting something for your time and trouble. but NOT a relationship. if i ever break up with my current girl friend (who happens to have kids ... not mine) i will never ever "Date" another single parent. ... NEVER! life is too short and i make too much money (now ... hehe) to deal with that again. but on the flip side ... i never said i wouldn't take out some MILF for some friends with benefits action. :p

[E90///M3]

i really think people have a misconception of the term ... "Dating"

for me Dating isn't just taking someone out ... as in "On a Date".

when a person says they are "Dating" this usually refers to a relationship, as in Boy Friend / Girl Friend.

now i hope all this talk about taking a single mother out ... is just that taking her out and in the end maybe getting something for your time and trouble. but NOT a relationship. if i ever break up with my current girl friend (who happens to have kids ... not mine) i will never ever "Date" another single parent. ... NEVER! life is too short and i make too much money (now ... hehe) to deal with that again. but on the flip side ... i never said i wouldn't take out some MILF for some friends with benefits action. :p

i agree... dating isn't just taking someone out. but can i ask you, what is your definition of dating? is it "just getting to know someone?"

the girl i WAS seeing used to say, "dating is just to get to know someone." imagine, she used to say this after almost a year of us "dating." we did everything a normal couple would do but we didnt have the title of BF/GF.

personally it bugs me how she defined dating.

[MarqE46]

trust... you don't want to! lol

why?! does she look like umm........... :lolhit:

i really think people have a misconception of the term ... "Dating"

for me Dating isn't just taking someone out ... as in "On a Date".

when a person says they are "Dating" this usually refers to a relationship, as in Boy Friend / Girl Friend.

now i hope all this talk about taking a single mother out ... is just that taking her out and in the end maybe getting something for your time and trouble. but NOT a relationship. if i ever break up with my current girl friend (who happens to have kids ... not mine) i will never ever "Date" another single parent. ... NEVER! life is too short and i make too much money (now ... hehe) to deal with that again. but on the flip side ... i never said i wouldn't take out some MILF for some friends with benefits action. :p

well said. way to keep it real especially what you said what comes along after "but on the flip side.........................................." :)

[gbogh3]

Ok guys I know it's not the same scenario but, what about dating a cute still finely crafted married girl/lady who happen to be separated with the husband??

You should be careful about this and not get too attached, there is a good chance you are a rebound guy, filling the voild from what her soon to be ex was not doing..... I 've seen these relationships last for years! Then 1 day she wakes up and starts to move on :confused: . On a similar note, I would not spend time with the kid, this creates an entirely new dynamic.

GL

[E90///M3]

why?! does she look like umm........... :lolhit:


lol... 4'10" big fake boobs (paid for by my best friend hahaha), 2 kids from two different baby daddy's (neither are my friends kids lol)... she's getting married to her ex-bestfriend/roommate's ex-fiancee :rofl:

[Laidback]

I'm out:laughhard:lol... 4'10" big fake boobs (paid for by my best friend hahaha), 2 kids from two different baby daddy's (neither are my friends kids lol)... she's getting married to her ex-bestfriend/roommate's ex-fiancee :rofl:

[Orange fever]

NOW thats a HO!!!!!!!:Dlol... 4'10" big fake boobs (paid for by my best friend hahaha), 2 kids from two different baby daddy's (neither are my friends kids lol)... she's getting married to her ex-bestfriend/roommate's ex-fiancee :rofl:

[Orange fever]

this means she can **** anybody and its OKay......lolz...lolz....:pi agree... dating isn't just taking someone out. but can i ask you, what is your definition of dating? is it "just getting to know someone?"

the girl i WAS seeing used to say, "dating is just to get to know someone." imagine, she used to say this after almost a year of us "dating." we did everything a normal couple would do but we didnt have the title of BF/GF.

personally it bugs me how she defined dating.

[Mattie]

feel for the kid dude. hard to get the kid on your side :(

[MarqE46]

So I took that girl/lady out last night.. went for some sushi at RA sushi at Fashion Show Mall right in front of the Wynn and on.. and she really seems to like me. She calls me on my cell like hell. But I don't wanna get wayy to involved at the same time, it's confusing lol

lol... 4'10" big fake boobs (paid for by my best friend hahaha), 2 kids from two different baby daddy's (neither are my friends kids lol)... she's getting married to her ex-bestfriend/roommate's ex-fiancee :rofl:

ok I got totally lost in the "..ex-bestfriend/roommate's ex-fiancee.." can you draw a diagram on that one?? :D

this means she can **** anybody and its OKay......lolz...lolz....:p

hmmm.. that's what I say. wouldn't mind meeting her tho. haha!!

[///Gram]

Sup guys, figured I'd ask the M chronies for some advice and maybe you guys can offer your wisdom. (Please no smart remarks)

What is your opinion when dating a single mom? What's the hardest thing to deal with? etc...
Anyone with experience, your advice is greatly appreciated :rolleyes:

I think it would be a bit weird if a kid my age was dating a mom loll :p

[MarqE46]

I think it would be a bit weird if a kid my age was dating a mom loll :p

You're kidding right??

:laughhard:

[Orange fever]

18 with a 81 ...lolzI think it would be a bit weird if a kid my age was dating a mom loll :p

You're kidding right??

:laughhard:

[///Gram]

You're kidding right??

:laughhard:

well Im 16 so....no....lol

[///Gram]

18 with a 81 ...lolz

:lolhit:

[E90///M3]

well Im 16 so....no....lol

that would be kinda weird... if i was 16 dating a MILF? well if the MILF was my age you never know lol

you know "kids" be having babies at YOUNG ages these days!

[MarqE46]

knew a female friend who had a kid when she was only 17.. and every year she would have a new one. I think it's at 4 or 5 now, lost count!!

///Gram is in the game fo sho!

[///Gram]

knew a female friend who had a kid when she was only 17.. and every year she would have a new one. I think it's at 4 or 5 now, lost count!!

///Gram is in the game fo sho!

I try to stay away from the ones that are pushing out babys every year:laughhard:

[LWRNCE]

Most of them are drama.

[nmulax]

Repeating what's been said, but it's not an easy thing to do.

I dated a single mom with twin girls for a while; and 1st and foremost you need to know the kid will always come first - and this makes sense, but it's not easy to always accept. It gets frustrating when you can't just go out with her whenever; you need to plan for a babysitter. You can't exactly swing by and grab her for a weekend out of town.

Also, chances are she won't want you walking in and out of her kid's life, so it's a much more serious commitment then a regular relationship. Dating a mom for 6 months is like dating a single girl for 12-18 months.

The dad will likely be a regular fixture in the kid's life, so you have to accept him being a part of the mom's life too.

[gbogh3]

Agreed.

I dated a single mom with twin girls for a while; and 1st and foremost you need to know the kid will always come first - and this makes sense, but it's not easy to always accept.

If you are ok making plans for weekends away this will work for you. However, as mentioned before, the kid/s will come first, and SHOULD come first. If you are dating a single mom that does not put the kids first,:mad: get out when you can.



Also, chances are she won't want you walking in and out of her kid's life, so it's a much more serious commitment then a regular relationship. Dating a mom for 6 months is like dating a single girl for 12-18 months.

Yeah, maybe even 3 months for some of them....... Its really best not to offer to take the kids out with you, or if you have kids say... Let's get all the kids and go to dinner. If you do meet the kids, its by 'dumb luck' and you happen to run into them. Meeting kids, playing with kids and planning trips, playdates or dinners is not something you should look to do, just to see her more.

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